Dating

If you are single you might feel ready to start dating again as part of defining your new normal. However, as a result of your lymphoma experience, your view on relationships may be different than before your treatment. Having gone through the lymphoma experience, you may feel stronger and more empowered. You may feel like you know yourself and your priorities better than you did before your treatment. This may change how you feel about what you have to offer in a relationship.

On the other hand, as a result of your lymphoma experience, you may be very anxious about venturing in to the dating game. The worry about the difficulty in finding the right person, the fear of rejection, the changes in your physical appearance, and the uncertainty of your future are all things that can impact your views of dating.

Do not let these worries prevent you from seeking the social life that you would like to have. Remember, regardless of lymphoma, many people are unsure of themselves when dating and starting new relationships. Lymphoma, or any other cancer, should never be an excuse for not trying to meet new people and making new friends. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, not every date has to be successful. As you may recall, not every date worked out before you had lymphoma, it’s just a reality of dating.

Finding new ways to meet potential partners can be difficult too. Try focusing on activities that you enjoy so that you can become more relaxed in new social situations, without the pressure of dating. For example, take a class, join a club, and/or volunteer for a cause, to meet new people. You can also try spending more time with friends and family and sharing with them that you are ready to meet potential dating partners.

If you continue to have fears or worries about dating, try talking with a counselor or finding lymphoma survivor support groups where you can discuss your concerns about dating and new relationships.

References:

Canadian Cancer Society. Relationships after cancer
Accessed May 27, 2014

Cancer.Net. Dating and Intimacy
Accessed May 27, 2014

National Cancer Institute. Facing Forward: Life After Cancer Treatment. Body Changes and Intimacy
Accessed May 27, 2014